Kids - your most successful investment, or your greatest failure

A lot of people, so-called experts, write so many books out there teaching you how to raise your kids. Unfortunately, I do not agree that there should be "standard" way of raising and teaching your kids. If there exists such a standard, we won't be human beings; we become machines.

A lot of people raise their kids with the dependency on nanny or daycare. It is their choice and their freedom to do so, but I would not recommend this way at all. Watching all my 3 children growing up step by step, and reading a lot of 傳記, you can tell that a kid's personality and attitudes are molded during the first several years. Kids at this age require constant attention. Unlike love between grown men and women, you kids won't feel your love if your do not spend time with them. If you are not around, guess from whom your kids pick up their personality and attitudes? You know the answer.

Another thing. Kid's brain is like sponge. It can absorb a lot of things. I want to teach my kids a lot of things, with certain rules:
Only force basic and necessary skills.
Show good manners.
Allow time to play.
言教不如身教. Live to be an example.
言必行. 行必果.

What are basic and necessary skills? Well, it's your choice because there is no such standard. In my opinion, music, for example, is definitely not a required skill.

不管賺了多少個零, 子孫不肖, 錢的前面都要加一個負號. Your children don't need money, they need your devotion. Stop complaining and spend more quality time with your family.